No More Mr. Nice Guy ((install)) -

The Nice Guy believes that if anyone sees his true self—his laziness, his weird hobbies, his sexual desires, his anger—they will abandon him. Consequently, he creates a "perfect" facade. This makes genuine intimacy impossible because intimacy requires vulnerability, not perfection.

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The number one destroyer of relationships for Nice Guys is the "covert contract." This is an unspoken deal you make in your head without informing the other party. "I will vacuum the entire house and wash her car, and in return, she will want to have sex with me tonight." When she doesn't fulfill her side of a deal she never agreed to, you feel rage and victimization. The Nice Guy believes that if anyone sees

Nice Guys are drawn to "projects." They find friends, partners, or employees who are broken and try to fix them. This makes the Nice Guy feel needed and powerful. Unfortunately, it breeds codependency. You aren't loved for who you are; you are loved for what you do for them. No more Mister Nice Guy No more Mister